Soul Contracts: Balancing Free Will and Life's Lessons
- laura zibalese
- Sep 22
- 4 min read
Updated: Sep 24
Part 5: Afterlife series
The Question Before Birth
In the groundbreaking works Journey of Souls and Destiny of Souls, Dr. Michael Newton revealed through spiritual regression that before we are born, our soul family asks us one key question:
“What is it you would like to learn this lifetime?”
Our answer shapes what spiritual teachers call a soul contract—a kind of outline or blueprint for the lessons and relationships that will guide our growth. But here’s the important part: contracts are not prisons. They are flexible frameworks. Every soul retains free will. We can accept, delay, alter, or even walk away from lessons, and sometimes our growth depends on whether both parties in a contract are willing to do the work. Book A Psychic or Past life Reading with Laura Now
What Are Soul Contracts?
A soul contract is a spiritual agreement created before birth with the help of guides and our soul group. These agreements may involve parents, siblings, friends, partners—even adversaries—who agree to take on certain roles in our story.
But unlike destiny carved in stone, a contract is more like a map with multiple roads. We may choose one route, but free will allows detours, shortcuts, or even bypasses. Sometimes a lesson aka karma is meant to be learned through one person ends up being delivered by another if the original “teacher” doesn’t step into their role.
“Soul contracts are not punishments. They are opportunities. Free will determines how we meet them.”
Learning Through Opposites
The essence of these contracts is contrast.
Patience is learned not from calm surroundings but from siblings or coworkers who test our limits.
Love is often revealed after we experience rejection or betrayal.
Confidence grows strongest when we are underestimated, ignored, or stepped on—until we finally stand tall.
Yet, even here, free will is central. You can walk away from the sibling who never changes, or set boundaries with the partner who keeps testing your love. Growth does not require endless suffering; it requires choice.
“The soul is polished by friction, not comfort. Every challenge we face is an invitation to shine brighter.”
The Flexibility of Contracts
Soul contracts depend on willingness. For example:
You may have agreed with a partner to learn forgiveness. If they never take steps toward growth, you are not required to stay. You may learn forgiveness by releasing them instead.
A parent-child contract may include tension to build resilience. But the way you respond—whether you repeat the cycle or break it—is entirely up to you.
Contracts bend and shift with our decisions. What matters is the lesson learned, not that it plays out in one rigid way.
The Two Kinds of Pain
Learning pain stretches us toward growth.
Abusive pain crosses into harm and is never “required.”
This distinction is key: you are never “bound” by a contract to endure endless abuse. If a person is unwilling to play their part in a healthy way, you can still fulfill your contract by choosing freedom and self-protection.
Beginner’s Luck and Rebalancing
Beginner’s luck often appears as the universe’s way of reminding us: “Yes, you can succeed.”
But true growth usually comes after imbalance. Contracts are designed to knock us off center, then give us opportunities to return stronger. How far we’re knocked often depends on how much our soul wanted to learn in this lifetime.
Still, free will remains. Some souls step up and grow quickly. Others delay lessons across decades—or even lifetimes. The blueprint is there, but the pace is our choice.
Lessons Don’t End—They Evolve
One of the most humbling truths of soul work is that every time you master a lesson, another appears.
But this isn’t punishment—it’s progression. Think of it like school: once you pass one grade, you’re ready for the next. You can drop out (free will), take the scenic route (delay lessons), or even change majors (shift contracts). But growth never ends.
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Our greatest challenges often come from our closest soul friends—those who agree to play “villain” so we can learn strength, patience, or forgiveness.
But here again: if the “villain” refuses to stop harming us, we are not chained to them. Contracts can be fulfilled by walking away, setting boundaries, or learning the lesson elsewhere.
As Dr. Newton’s clients revealed, many souls embrace their adversaries joyfully in the afterlife, recognizing that the hard roles were just part of the play.
Free Will: The Wild Card in Every Contract
This is the piece too often forgotten. Soul contracts are living outlines.
You can choose to resist or delay growth.
You can choose to accelerate it by facing lessons head-on.
If another soul opts out of their side of the agreement, the universe will reroute the lesson through other people or events.
“Your soul may write the outline, but you hold the pen. Every choice adds a new page to the story.”
Healing and Integration
Working with the idea of contracts doesn’t mean staying in harmful situations. It means:
Recognizing lessons.
Choosing how you respond.
Forgiving where possible.
Letting go where needed.
Healing comes from owning your free will. Contracts provide the classroom, but you still decide how to engage with the material.
Conclusion: The Diamond Blueprint
Soul contracts are the outlines we design before birth to help us grow. They are not punishments, prisons, or rigid destinies. They are flexible frameworks where free will, willingness, and choice matter at every step.
We forget these agreements at birth to make the lessons feel real. But when we look back—through regression, meditation, or simple reflection—we see the beauty of the design. Every challenge, every contrast, every “villain” friend who played their role has been part of our polishing.
And like the diamond, we emerge from the scrubbing brighter, stronger, and more fully ourselves.
If you’d like to explore your own soul blueprint — what you chose to learn and why — I’d be honored to guide you. Book an Akashic Records or past-life reading and we’ll gently uncover the lessons your soul carries.
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